Hey my friends. I've been thinking: success ain't that deep.
We tend to think that success will be a rager. Confetti flowing, cash in hand, all the love from all the people. We imagine Life sounding off the bells, announcing that we DONE DID IT.
But success is a slow creep.
It edges in behind new connections. It sneaks up when you finally start sharing your creative inklings. It gets sifted out when we manage our time with intention and attention. Problem is, we don't always acknowledge it when it's there. Have you said, "Oh it's nothing..." about your creative work before? Have you reasoned your way out of accepting success? Have you even called yourself a fraud?
Yeah, I have too. I wrote a whole section of my book on it, in fact. It's an ugly habit and we've gotta break it if we're going to go ahead and do the really, truly badass things.
So here's where I want you (and me) to switch it up. Instead of waiting for the big party that signals we have "made it," I want us to look for these five moments each week. If you can check off these five moments, you are succeeding beyond your wildest dreams, my love:
1. Someone thanks you. For my money, anytime I reach another person in a meaningful way, I can drop that mic. Connecting with others is what creativity is all about. If you make someone else feel less alone because they see your creative work and say, "Hey, me too!" you have DONE it, lovebug. There's nothing more successful than genuine, motherlovin' connection.
2. You share your work, even in the smallest way, with others. Hey, I get it. It's scary to share and post your work, especially when it's in an early draft. So you don't have to give away the whole shebang, but can you share part of your process on Instagram? Can you email a draft to a close friend? Can you call your mom and tell her what you're working on? Sharing is giving. And giving is succeeding.
3. You give yourself some love. Success doesn't just come from blood, sweat and tears. It also comes from joy, lightness and expanse. It should feel good. You've gotta have at least one moment each week where you intentionally feel good and recharge yourself. Committing to an act of self-love is committing to your willpower. Use this worksheet to determine what acts of self-love would treat you best.
4. Your comfort zone expands a tiny bit. Listen my creative cohort, if you can push yourself and do something slightly uncomfortable each week: you are MAKING IT. I mean this. It takes so much for us to push beyond our normal patterns, so when you make it a weekly goal to try something new, to reach out to a new connection or even to build a new routine, you are creating momentum for success. You just wait and see.
5. You prioritize your energy. Ultimately, success has to do with your inner and outer lives being in alignment. Your priorities and your guiding principles can be unstoppable forces if you let them. If you have one moment in your week where you feel aligned and you're using your energy for the projects and people you are passionate about, well then hot damn. Ring them bells. That is success.