I've written before about my disdain for resolutions. They feel fake, they feel flighty and, most of all, they feel forced. Resolutions forget to take in the scientific reality that willpower is a finite resource. Even if you knocked every resolution off your list, if it's done begrudgingly and disconnected from a deep, underlying joy, its positive effect decreases.
Willpower, when connected to an authentic desire, is unstoppable. If you set the right resolution, you're halfway to accomplishing it.
Here are 5 strategies for choosing your resolution.
- Take out the "should." Automatic joy-decreaser. Do it because you want it. Not because a magazine tells you it's what you want. Do it because you're responding to a siren call. Because you gotta. Because you must.
- Set your goals for 3 months or 6 months at a time. A year is a lengthy amount of time to chase the same goal. Choose a goal you can accomplish in a shorter amount of time, then reevaluate, let your goal evolve and do the process again, and again. The small goals add up to the big one.
- Meditate, or simply get quiet for five minutes, and then ask yourself: What do I want? We think we know, but if we're not intentionally asking and listening, we're often glazing over it. Free write, talk it out, let stream of consciousness flow with judgment. You might surprise yourself.
- Think about what people thank you for. How can you capitalize on something you're already nailing? There is energy and momentum behind your pre-proven talent, so if you pour some more extra intention into getting even better, things are gonna move.
- Choose to make space. It's not always easy to know exactly what you want to accomplish, but simplifying your life often gives clarity. Make some room in your life by getting out of bad relationships, jobs and other situations so your new, joy-filled path, can start clearly revealing itself to you.
If you're in New York City, this is just an introduction to a workshop I'm leading next Monday night January 4th. At the live workshop, we'll define your goal, set a strategy to make your creative dreams come true and learn how to clear obstacles as they come up so you leave with a no-fail plan for creative success. For even more information, go here.
Happy New Year, friends.