One of my favorite things to do is serve as a creative mentor and coach. When creatives (or people who want to identify as creative for the first time) are starting a new endeavor or wanting to shake things up, I work with them to identify their goals and make a plan of action. Within the simple method I use, I've witnessed so many people break open their hearts and share their hidden talents with the world. It's a beautiful thing to see.
In doing this, I've watched my clients (and myself in my own process) come up against certain hurdles. Some of the obstacles have been real, but most of those hurdles have had to do with goals that are insufficient, disconnected or shadows of what we actually we want.
Meaning, the goal itself was leading us down the wrong path.
A lot of the work I do is to help reframe the goal. (CAUTION: This never means watering it down or playing it safe. In fact, many times the goal isn't big enough.) So, I wanted to give you a list of the 5 old, tired goals we tend to have and their bigger, more badass-er alternatives:
Old goal: Attain a position of authority.
Instead of chasing authority, chase leadership. Authority is about taking a position of power, leadership intrinsically has power in it. And besides, real leaders don't want to take power, they want to give it away. They want to empower others. So instead of trying to climb in the ranks, what if you sought to embolden those around you? Chances are, you'll end up getting that position of authority anyway, but it won't matter. You'll have already stepped into your rightful role as a leader.
Old goal: Make soooooo much money.
Instead of chasing dollars, chase opportunities. Listen, I do NOT have a problem with money, affluence or wealth. Here's what I have a problem with: chasing a bottom line that isn't purposeful. Why do you want to be a billionaire? Hopefully it's not so that you just sit on your dough or get to be on a Forbes list, but rather to have the opportunity to experience more of the world and more of life. Instead of fixating on how much money you can make, what if you fixated on the least amount of money you need to have the experiences you want to have? Use your money goals as a way to create opportunities in your life to connect and expand. Try to make $5000 extra dollars this month not because you just want more more more, but because you want to travel, take time off from work for your passion project, or redo your apartment to inspire more creativity. Because of the way energy and currency flow together, as you begin to value opportunity more than cash, chances are you'll find yourself making more money. Again, money is not a bad thing, but your intention, or lack of one, is going to make that money a blessing or a curse.
Old goal: Work on something or with someone prestigious.
Instead of chasing prestige, chase what's interesting. If you read my book, then you know I was chasing the prestigious achievement of being on Broadway for a long time. I didn't care what show I did, I just wanted the title. I wanted it to be easy at family gatherings to say what I was working on. Prestige leads many people down a path that wasn't meant for them. If I had followed that, I would have never written my book and been stuck in a bitter, bitter rut. What if instead of prestige, you chased what interested you? Spending your time fixated, curious or passionate about an idea or concept is time well invested. The hours turn into days and days turn into an inspired life. If you are really interested in something and you take the path as far as it leads, you may inadvertently end up creating prestige anyway. But it won't matter. Because you'll have felt fulfilled and energized all along.
Old goal: Not need a day job.
Instead of chasing not needing a day job, chase focus. What? Focus? Instead of a day job-free life? YES. Okay here's why: "not needing a day job" is an arbitrary marker of an arbitrary definition of "success." In other words, your need or un-need for a day job doesn't mean anything. Instead of fixating on whether or not your creativity/passions financially support you or not, fixate on focus. When you focus on your creative goals, knowing how and where you want to move forward in your craft, the day job becomes a support for your work. You'll get clear about what kind of day job you need. The day job will work in service of your larger purpose in life. Day jobs are part of it, my friends. Don't hunt down a day job-free life, hunt down your unabatable, dig-your-heels-in motherlovin' focus.
Old goal: Be successful by 25.
Instead of chasing a deadline, chase longevity. Listen, you were not meant to be here for a one and done success. You are here with a lifetime of purpose. Setting deadlines for anything from becoming CEO, to getting married, to making your first million is missing the bigger picture. What if you calculated your success by the number of wholehearted years you rack up? What if you chased soul-satisfying practices -- meditation, morning rituals, discipline, building a tribe -- so you knew that when hard times came (because they surely will) you'd be fortified by your intention to last? Last, dear one. Don't just succeed. Last.
The conclusion is this, friends: redefining your goals to align with your inner spirit is a bigger investment than any other strategy you could possibly use. As we approach the end of the year, take the time to think through what goals you need to drop and what goals you need to chase. It's time for you to step into your greatness.
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